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Always a bonus when it comes to lesbian dating. “After a couple of decades of dating experience, it can be easy to assume you will be disappointed,” says dating coach Lily Womble. But that cynicism is only working against you. Sunny Joy McMillan, relationship expert and author of Unhitched, agrees. She recommends replacing your doubts with optimism.

Just the fact that they too are gay has you lusting over them like they’re Megan Fox. Since I’ve taught you all the things, you SHOULD do while lesbian dating, now I’m going to share some of the things you absolutely shouldn’t do. I’m pretty sure most baby lesbians have made one or more of these datings mistakes in the past. But now I’m giving you the heads up, hopefully, you won’t have to. I know from experience how obsessing over labels can lead to feelings of isolation.

If you’re not out, it’s important to be clear with yourself and whoever you’re dating about what information you’re comfortable sharing or having shared. “This clarity allows you to honor where you’re at while being transparent with folks you’re dating,” he says. That said, as far as dating is concerned, how ‘out’ you are will likely impact how you date, as well as your dating experience. You can also ask the educators at your local sex shops for tips on where to find them. “Finding group activities in your neighborhood and pushing your focus toward community-style activities and meetups will bring you around more people who have a similar interest as you,” Saynt says. “It’s helpful to know what you’re looking for as you go into dating,” says Jesse Kahn, LCSW-R, CST, the director and sex therapist at The Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center in New York City.

I have had dates where I felt doomed into the listener-zone, where my date went on and on about his work, family, pausing only to sip his drink and then jabbering on. Tap into that basic human instinct to make your date feel good about themselves and set the tone right for your time together. Just the way you’ve put in a lot of effort to look good for the date, so have they. You wouldn’t want to spend an evening talking to a person who can barely keep their eyes open or whose speech is slurring. Or worse, someone who has to rush to the washroom to throw up.

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I’m not saying it wasn’t fun, but looking back, most of those flings were highly inappropriate. Things got awkward, people got hurt, and it made my introduction into the lesbian world far from ideal. So much so, I went back in the closet, only to reappear a few years later. When you first start to realise you are attracted to girls, it can be tempting to latch on to each and every lesbian you meet. It doesn’t matter how old they are, how you’ve come to know them, or even if you’re attracted to them.